Too many times I have watched grieving parents talking on TV about how their beloved children had been the targets of cyber bullying and had decided to commit suicide. This is heartbreaking. So today I want to remind all of you out there (and myself) to be kind.
In Proverbs 12:25 it says, “An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up”
Proverbs 11:16-17 says, “A kindhearted woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth. A kind man benefits himself, but a cruel man brings trouble on himself.”
1 Corinthians 13:4 says, “Love is patient, love is kind.”
Colossians 3:12-14 says, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience, Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
The definition of kindness in the Oxford Living Dictionary is “The quality of being friendly, generous and considerate.” It can also be used as a noun to mean “a kind act”.
Synonyms for kindness are ” affection, consideration, cordiality, courtesy, decency, forbearance, gentleness, good will, goodness, grace, graciousness, heart, helpfulness, humanity, indulgence, mildness, sweetness, sympathy, tenderness, thoughtfulness, tolerance, understanding, unselfishness.”
Antonyms for “kindness” are ” cruelty, harshness, meanness.” (all from Thesaurus.com)
Words are vitally important. They have the power to kill or to bring life. Proverbs 18:21 says, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
Words can really hurt someone, conversely they can encourage someone too.
When I speak about words, I am also speaking about the written word on social media. I watched a clip today from the “This Morning” programme where a grieving mother was saying that her daughter had been bombarded with cruel messages , even in the middle of the night. It seemed there was no let up and no way to escape this cruelty. The last message recorded on her phone was, “Why don’t you hang yourself.”. The next day this teenager committed suicide.
Dear friends and readers, can I just urge you today to be kind to others. It doesn’t cost anything to have a kind word to say about someone. If you know of someone who is a victim of cruelty, stand with them and encourage them. If you see someone being excluded try and include them in your group. Be careful what you are writing about others on social media. Would you say that to their face? If you couldn’t, maybe it’s not something you should be writing at all. The Bible says you will give account of every word that you speak.
There is no profit at all in being mean to another human being – it hurts them and it dirties your own soul.
Be kind always.
I think that there needs to be a better approach than just “be kind” but “be courageous, too” and “never let a victim stand alone”. If you see someone posting viscous messages on a site about someone – don’t just exit off of that site and do something else. Say something: “C’mon I’m sure you’ve all got it wrong. I know that X can’t be this or isn’t like that.” “Those comments are unacceptable.” “Golden rule: treat others as you’d want to be treated – would you like all of us to post all of these things you’re saying on your own site?”
You’d be surprised how one person standing up for another can do a world of good – and possibly even save a life.
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